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‘Never Say Goodbye’: Can AI Bring the Dead Back to Life?
This article delves into the fascinating and controversial world of AI resurrections, exploring how technology is changing the way we cope with grief.
Published
6 months agoon
By
AIinAsia
TL;DR:
- AI is creating digital ‘resurrections’ of the dead, allowing people to interact with them.
- Projects like Replika and StoryFile use AI to mimic the deceased’s communication style.
- Experts debate the psychological and ethical implications of these technologies.
- Privacy and environmental concerns are significant issues with AI resurrections.
In a world where artificial intelligence can resurrect the dead, grief takes on a new dimension. From Canadian singer Drake’s use of AI-generated Tupac Shakur vocals to Indian politicians addressing crowds years after their passing, technology is blurring the lines between life and death. But beyond their uncanny pull in entertainment and politics, AI “zombies” might soon become a reality for people reeling from the loss of loved ones, through a series of pathbreaking, but potentially controversial, initiatives.
What are AI ‘Resurrections’ of People?
Over the past few years, AI projects around the world have created digital “resurrections” of individuals who have passed away, allowing friends and relatives to converse with them. Typically, users provide the AI tool with information about the deceased. This could include text messages and emails or simply be answers to personality-based questions. The AI tool then processes that data to talk to the user as if it were the deceased.
One of the most popular projects in this space is Replika – a chatbot that can mimic people’s texting styles. Other companies, however, now also allow you to see a video of the dead person as you talk to them. For example, Los Angeles-based StoryFile uses AI to allow people to talk at their own funerals. Before passing, a person can record a video sharing their life story and thoughts. During the funeral, attendees can ask questions and AI technology will select relevant responses from the prerecorded video.
In June, US-based Eternos also made headlines for creating an AI-powered digital afterlife of a person. Initiated just earlier this year, this project allowed 83-year-old Michael Bommer to leave behind a digital version of himself that his family could continue to interact with.
Do These Projects Help People?
When a South Korean mother reunited with an AI recreation of her dead daughter in virtual reality, a video of the emotional encounter in 2020 sparked an intense debate online about whether such technology helps or hurts its users. Developers of such projects point to the users’ agency, and say that it addresses a deeper suffering.
Jason Rohrer, founder of Project December, which also uses AI to stimulate conversations with the dead, said that most users are typically going through an “unusual level of trauma and grief” and see the tool as a way to help cope.
“A lot of these people who want to use Project December in this way are willing to try anything because their grief is so insurmountable and so painful to them.”
The project allows users to chat with AI recreations of known public figures and also with individuals that users may know personally. People who choose to use the service for stimulating conversation with the dead often discover that it helps them find closure, Rohrer said. The bots allow them to express words left unsaid to loved ones who died unexpectedly, he added.
Eternos’s founder, Robert LoCasio, said that he developed the company to capture people’s life stories and allow their loved ones to move forward. Bommer, his former colleague who passed away in June, wanted to leave behind a digital legacy exclusively for his family, said LoCasio.
“I spoke with [Bommer] just days before he passed away and he said, just remember, this was for me. I don’t know if they’d use this in the future, but this was important to me,” said LoCasio.
What are the Pitfalls of This Technology?
Some experts and observers are more wary of AI resurrections, questioning whether deeply grieving people can really make the informed decision to use it, and warning about its adverse psychological effects.
“The biggest concern that I have as a clinician is that mourning is actually very important. It’s an important part of development that we are able to acknowledge the missing of another person,” said Alessandra Lemma, consultant at the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families.
Prolonged use could keep people from coming to terms with the absence of the other person, leaving them in a state of “limbo”, Lemma warned. Indeed, one AI service has marketed a perpetual connection with the deceased person as a key feature.
“Welcome to YOV (You, Only Virtual), the AI startup pioneering advanced digital communications so that we Never Have to Say Goodbye to those we love,” read the company’s website, before it was recently updated.
Rohrer said that his grief bot has an “in-built” limiting factor: users pay $10 for a limited conversation. The fee buys time on a supercomputer, with each response varying in computational cost. This means $10 doesn’t guarantee a fixed number of responses, but can allow for one to two hours of conversation. As the time is about to lapse, users are sent a notification and can say their final goodbyes. Several other AI-generated conversational services also charge a fee for use.
Lemma, who has researched the psychological impact of grief bots, says that while she worries about the prospects of them being used outside a therapeutic context, it could be used safely as an adjunct to therapy with a trained professional. Studies around the world are also observing the potential for AI to deliver mental health counselling, particularly through individualised conversational tools.
Are Such Tools Unnatural?
These services may appear to be straight out of a Black Mirror episode. But supporters of this technology argue that the digital age is simply ushering in new ways of preserving life stories, and potentially filling a void left by the erosion of traditional family storytelling practices.
“In the olden days, if a parent knew they were dying, they would leave boxes full of things that they might want to pass on to a child or a book,” said Lemma. “So, this might be the 21st-century version of that, which is then passed on and is created by the parents in anticipation of their passing.”
LoCasio at Eternos agrees.
“The ability for a human to tell the stories of their life, and pass those along to their friends and family, is actually the most natural thing,” he said.
Are AI Resurrection Services Safe and Private?
Experts and studies alike have expressed concerns that such services may fail to keep data private. Personal information or data such as text messages shared with these services could potentially be accessed by third parties. Even if a firm says it will keep data private when someone first signs up, common revisions to terms and conditions, as well as possible changes in company ownership mean that privacy cannot be guaranteed, cautioned Renee Richardson Gosline, senior lecturer at the MIT Sloan School of Management.
Both Rohrer and LoCasio insisted that privacy was at the heart of their projects. Rohrer can only view conversations when users file a customer support request, while LoCasio’s Eternos limits access to the digital legacy to authorised relatives. However, both agreed that such concerns could potentially manifest in the case of tech giants or for-profit companies.
One big worry is that companies may use AI resurrections to customise how they market themselves to users. An advertisement in the voice of a loved one, a nudge for a product in their text.
“When you’re doing that with people who are vulnerable, what you’ve created is a pseudo-endorsement based on someone who never agreed to do such a thing. So it really is a problem with regard to agency and asymmetry of power,” said Gosline.
Are There Any Other Concerns Over AI Chatbots?
That these tools are fundamentally catering to a market of people dealing with grief in itself makes them risky, suggested Gosline – especially when Big Tech companies enter the game.
“In a culture of tech companies which is often described as ‘move fast and break things’, we ought to be concerned because what’s typically broken first are the things of the vulnerable people,” said Gosline. “And I’m hard-pressed to think of people who are more vulnerable than those who are grieving.”
Experts have raised concerns about the ethics of creating a digital resurrection of the dead, particularly in cases where they have not consented to it and users feed AI the data. The environmental impact of AI-powered tools and chatbots is also a growing concern, particularly when involving large language models (LLMs) – systems trained to understand and generate human-like text, which power applications like chatbots.
These systems need giant data centres that emit high levels of carbon and use large volumes of water for cooling, in addition to creating e-waste due to frequent hardware upgrades. A report in early July from Google showed that the company was far behind its ambitious net-zero goals, owing to the demand AI was putting on its data centres.
Gosline said that she understands that there is no perfect programme and that many users of such AI chatbots would do anything to reconnect with a deceased loved one. But it’s on leaders and scientists to be more thoughtful about the kind of world they want to create, she said. Fundamentally, she said, they need to ask themselves one question:
“Do we need this?”
Final Thoughts: The Future of AI and Grief
As AI continues to evolve, so too will its applications in helping people cope with grief. While the technology offers unprecedented opportunities for connection and closure, it also raises significant ethical, psychological, and environmental concerns. It is crucial for developers and users alike to approach these tools with caution and consideration, ensuring that they are used in ways that truly benefit those who are grieving.
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AI Notetakers in Meetings—Innovation, Invasion, or Something in Between?
The rise of AI notetakers in meetings: productivity perks, pitfalls and how to balance collaboration with privacy and security concerns.
Published
3 days agoon
February 20, 2025By
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TL;DR – What You Need to Know in 30 Seconds
- AI notetakers are on the rise, popping into Zoom calls to record and summarise discussion points.
- Productivity benefits: 30–50% reduction in manual note-taking, 78% better engagement, fewer disputes over who said what.
- Potential downsides: Self-censorship, privacy concerns, AI “hallucinations,” overshadowing junior voices, and compliance nightmares under GDPR/all-party consent laws.
- Behavioural shift: People become more formal, more cautious, and less creative when they know they’re being recorded—an effect tied to fear of accountability, self-presentation, and the Observer Effect.
The Rise of AI Notetakers in Meetings
Picture this: It’s Monday morning, you’ve barely taken a sip of your Earl Grey, and you hop into your first Zoom of the day. Glancing at the attendee list, you see a curious name—something like “Fireflies.ai,” “Sharpen Notes,” or “MeetGeek”, or “Read.ai“. Congratulations, you’ve just met your new colleague: the AI notetaker.
Over the last year or two, these AI-driven meeting assistants have surged in popularity. On paper, they promise less admin, better accountability, and an end to your frantic scribbling. Yet, we’re discovering a range of pitfalls, from privacy and consent issues to the not-so-obvious threat of stifling free-flowing discussion. So in today’s chatty but comprehensive feature, let’s delve into why these digital note-takers might save you time—but at a cost you never saw coming.
A Quick Scene-Setter: The Rise of the AI Notetaker
According to Gokul Rajaram, cofounder at Marathon Management Partners, AI notetakers appear in 80% of the meetings he attends. Sometimes multiple bots show up, introduced by different participants. Why the explosion in popularity? Because, in theory, they do away with the chore of note-taking and allow every attendee to stay present in the conversation. Afterwards, you get a neat summary, key decisions, and follow-up tasks. No more “Who was assigned that again?”
Firms like Microsoft and Google have jumped on the bandwagon, integrating notetaking AI into Teams or Workspace. Smaller startups—Bubbles, Sharpen Notes, Otter.ai, Fireflies.ai, and others—have also joined the fray, offering everything from voice-to-text transcripts to advanced analytics (like speaking-time breakdowns).
Indeed, the efficiency claims can’t be dismissed out of hand. One study from a financial firm using Filenote.ai found each meeting’s notetaking chores dropped by 30–40 minutes. And that’s real time. Yet, the question remains: Is convenience overshadowing crucial ethical and psychological considerations?

A Balanced Analysis: Productivity Benefits vs. Discussion Inhibitors
Before we dive into the darker side of AI notetakers, let’s present a balanced look at both the good and the not-so-good. After all, these tools do offer tangible benefits—provided you implement them wisely.
Productivity Benefits
- Efficiency Gains
Research shows AI notetakers can reduce manual transcription time by 30–50%. Tools like Sharpen Notes and Bubbles provide real-time transcripts and automated action items, meaning staff can focus on the actual content rather than scribbling away. - Improved Focus
In one internal user survey, 78% of respondents reported better meeting engagement when they weren’t bogged down by note-taking. Paying closer attention to the conversation leads to richer discussion and fewer “Sorry, can you repeat that?” moments. - Enhanced Accountability
An AI notetaker creates a single source of truth—removing the dreaded “he said, she said” scenario. According to Workplace Options case studies, 40% fewer disputes arise when participants can review the conversation transcripts and see assigned tasks in black and white.
Potential Discussion Inhibitors
- Psychological Barriers
In a Bloomberg survey, 34% of employees expressed discomfort about AI listeners, especially around sensitive topics like layoffs, pay cuts, or performance evaluations. Knowing your words are stored can curb candid dialogue and hamper creativity. - Power Dynamics
Some AI notetakers inadvertently weight senior voices more heavily in summaries—especially if the CEO or director interrupts others or uses more “dominant” phrases. This can silence junior contributors, who may feel overshadowed by the algorithmic summary. - Technical Limitations
- Non-verbal cues (tone, sarcasm, etc.) often go undetected, risking misinterpretation of jokes or playful banter.
- Cross-talk in heated debates can result in a jumbled transcript.
- Confidential legal or HR discussions might require more nuance than a machine can manage.
So where does that leave us? Many see AI notetakers as a double-edged sword: they can simplify drudgery, but they must be deployed thoughtfully, with clear guidelines and a thorough understanding of each meeting’s context.
The Psychological Tendency to Alter Behaviour When Being Recorded
It’s not just compliance with laws like GDPR or HIPAA that should worry us—human beings simply behave differently when they know they’re on record. There is an entire field of study surrounding how people self-censor or modify their tone and content the moment they realise a third party (even a robot) is listening.
- Fear of Accountability: When statements are documented verbatim, participants spend more time refining their words to avoid negative consequences, mistakes, or future scrutiny. One study showed employees in enterprise social media platforms exert 23% more “codification effort” (careful wording and editing) to avoid misunderstandings.
- Observer Effect: Similar to the Hawthorne Effect, where individuals change their behaviour because they’re aware of being observed, police body camera studies reveal a 39% reduction in use-of-force incidents when officers know their actions are recorded.
- Self-Presentation Theory: Humans want to look good, or at least avoid looking bad. Neurological research found a 58% reduction in informal speech, 41% increase in “politically correct” phrasing, and 27% longer pause times when subjects know they’re being recorded.
These factors lead to more cautious, less spontaneous exchanges. In cross-cultural settings, these modifications can be even more pronounced; collectivist societies (e.g., many in Asia) have shown a 29% stronger behavioural shift under observation than individualistic cultures.
All of which begs the question: Aren’t meetings meant to encourage free-flowing innovation and real-time problem-solving? If people self-censor, will the best ideas even see the light of day?
Privacy and Consent: It’s (Not) Just a Checkbox
The Consent Minefield
In an all-party consent jurisdiction—like California, Massachusetts, or Illinois—everyone in the meeting must explicitly agree to be recorded. In places governed by GDPR (such as the EU), participants must be clearly informed about what’s being recorded, how data is stored, and for how long. If a single person says, “No, I’m not comfortable,” you need to turn that AI off, full stop.
- Pre-Meeting Emails: Many companies are setting up 24-hour advanced notices, explaining the presence of an AI notetaker and offering an opt-out.
- Landing Page Gateways: Some tools require participants to click “I Agree” to proceed into the meeting, ensuring explicit consent.
- Real-Time Alerts: Platforms like Zoom or Microsoft Teams flash notifications or announcements as soon as recording begins, letting latecomers know a bot is capturing every word.
The Big (Data) Question
Even if you have consent, there’s still the matter of where the data goes. Companies such as Fireflies.ai claim not to train on customer data, but it’s vital to read the fine print. If you’re discussing trade secrets, creative concepts, or sensitive HR matters, who’s to say your IP isn’t helping build the next big language model?
And let’s not forget the possibility of data breaches. If your transcripts sit on a poorly secured server, it’s not just your social chatter at risk but potentially entire product roadmaps, personnel evaluations, or contract negotiations.
Where AI Shines: Best Practices for Balance
So, can AI notetakers work if we navigate the pitfalls? Absolutely—if you follow some measured guidelines.
- Transparent Implementation
- Announce AI presence at the meeting start and outline how transcripts will be used.
- Allow opt-out periods for sensitive discussions so people can speak candidly, free from digital oversight.
- Human-AI Collaboration
- Use AI to generate a first draft; let a human note-taker review and inject nuance. This is especially critical for jokes, sarcasm, or side commentary.
- Some companies designate a “human verifier” to glance through the final summary, confirming it doesn’t misquote or inadvertently escalate a minor issue.
- Technical Safeguards
- Enable temporary recording pauses when legal or HR topics pop up.
- Use enterprise-grade encryption to prevent leaks. Tools that are SOC 2 certified or boast HIPAA-compliant frameworks (like certain healthcare notetakers) are a good sign.
- Conduct regular accuracy audits to ensure the AI isn’t “hallucinating” or attributing statements to the wrong person.
Case in point: Microsoft implemented AI-powered Intelligent Recap (part of Teams Premium) across its global workforce. Results observed internally include:
- 35-40% reduction in time spent reviewing meetings for employees catching up on missed sessions
- 93% of users reported improved efficiency in tracking action items and decisions compared to manual note-taking
- 50% faster follow-up task allocation due to AI-generated summaries highlighting key next steps
This functionality improves my productivity significantly… I have started recording more meetings because of it.
The Human Touch vs. the Digital Data Feed
Remember, the primary reason we gather colleagues in a (virtual) room is to talk, connect, and bounce ideas off each other. That means subtle jokes, tangential remarks, or even half-baked proposals that might spark something brilliant later. If we become too stiff or guarded because an AI might record and store our every breath, we risk turning meetings into purely transactional data feeds.
Margaret Mitchell, chief ethics scientist at Hugging Face, points out that a sarcastic quip could easily end up as an official “action item” in the transcript. If the AI doesn’t understand tone—and let’s be honest, so many of them don’t—your joke might become someone else’s headache.
Balancing Productivity and Openness: A Recap
Let’s summarise the practical tension:
- Yes, AI notetakers can reduce friction, cut note-taking time by almost half, and improve accountability.
- Yes, we can mitigate some of the privacy nightmares with clear consent processes, robust encryption, and data minimisation (i.e., automatically deleting transcripts after a set period).
- But AI notetakers also threaten the very essence of a meeting by inhibiting spontaneity, free speech, and creative risk-taking.
- And from a human psychology standpoint, recording drastically alters behaviour—34% more formality, self-censorship in sensitive contexts, and an uptick in anxiety among marginalised groups who have historically faced scrutiny.
Essentially, it’s a question of trade-offs: do you value speed and accountability more, or is open, free collaboration paramount? Ideally, we want both, which means implementing guardrails that ensure an AI notetaker doesn’t overshadow the human heart of the meeting.
What do YOU think?
Are we risking our most innovative, off-the-cuff ideas—and the genuine human connections that meetings are supposed to foster—by handing over every conversation to AI’s unwavering digital memory? Let us know in the comments below! And don’t forget to subscribe for the latest AI happenings in Asia!
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Adrian’s Arena: Gen Z Dating in APAC—How AI Is Changing the Face of Romance
Discover how APAC Gen Z daters are blending AI with real emotions for deeper connections. Learn the latest trends and insights shaping modern relationships.
Published
5 days agoon
February 18, 2025
TL;DR – What You Need to Know in 30 Seconds
- AI as a Wingman: Over 65% of APAC Gen Zers would use AI to refine dating profiles, photos, and bios, but they still want full control of their love life.
- Online Dating Dominates: 88% have started relationships via apps, and for 21% it’s the only method. Apps beat out traditional meet-cutes in terms of popularity.
- Balancing Act: Gen Z wants both love and career success—30% focus on a partner, 30% on career in the next three years. In seven years, 28% aim for marriage.
- Fluidity and Inclusivity: 69% are open to cross-cultural dating, 67% to cross-border relationships, reflecting a more global, inclusive mindset.
- Safety & Chivalry Redefined: Emotional security, respectful conversation, and ensuring safe journeys home rank higher than old-school gestures like paying for dates.
- Clarity is Key: 92% think it’s crucial to define where a relationship stands, valuing open conversations and mental well-being.
Gen Z Dating in APAC—Influced By AI
Picture this: you’re lounging on your sofa, scrolling through a dating app, thumb hovering over the heart icon. You’re silently rehearsing your best witty opener, but you’re missing that spark of inspiration.
Enter your new sidekick: artificial intelligence. Across the Asia-Pacific (APAC) region, Generation Z is leaning heavily on AI to help them craft everything from intros to image choices—shaping what modern romance looks like in 2025 and beyond. If you think it’s all robots and zero real connection, think again. AI might be the new wingman, but real feelings, emotional safety, and meaningful connections remain firmly in the driver’s seat.

Welcome to the brave new world of dating—where technology meets tradition in unexpected ways and all in a region known for its powerful blend of heritage and progress.
The Tinder Survey That’s Got Everyone Talking
In a newly released report titled Modern Day Dating in Asia Pacific by Tinder, spanning seven APAC markets—Australia, India, Japan, Korea, Singapore, Thailand and Vietnam—some 7,000 Gen Zers (aged 18 to 25) dished on their dating habits, hopes, and hurdles. The findings were timed to coincide with that yearly blast of pink hearts and chocolates: Valentine’s Day. But these insights go far beyond that lovey-dovey 24 hours. They’re painting a vivid picture of how Gen Z’s dating culture in APAC is evolving faster than you can say, “I got a match!”
How Big Is AI in the Dating Scene?
Let’s cut right to the chase: Artificial Intelligence is shaking up the dating world. Of those surveyed:
- 65% would use AI to help them pick their most flattering photos
- 67% would tap AI for writing swipe-right-worthy bios
- 68% believe AI can help spark conversation topics
But before you imagine a future where an AI avatar does all the courting, think again. One of Tinder’s relationship experts, Max Radcliffe, calls AI more of a “digital wingman” than a replacement for genuine human effort. He claims Gen Z is far from handing the reins of their love life over to the bots. They’re still the ones who want to “run the show,” but they’ll happily let AI handle a bit of the initial heavy lifting.
AI as Cupid’s Little Helper
What’s really going on here? For decades, meet-cutes happened in places like college campuses, office corridors, or through shared hobbies. But in the digital age, online apps have soared to the top:
- 88% of respondents said at least a few of their relationships started on a dating app
- 21% said all their relationships started online
- 48% of surveyed Gen Zers say apps are their top way to meet someone new, ahead of more “traditional” settings like shared hobbies (37%), workplaces (31%), or schools (30%)
With so many relationships blossoming in-app, the first impression is more crucial than ever. Let’s be honest: picking the right photo or crafting a witty bio can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. AI is now stepping in to help overcome that dreaded blank-screen anxiety. Whether it’s scanning your camera roll to highlight the best shot or brainstorming a super-snappy tagline, AI is serving as a confidence boost. Talk about your digital hype-man, right?
From Photo Filters to Bio Boosters
- Selecting the best photos: Let’s say you’ve got 23 selfies stored in your phone. AI can sift through them, gauge your expressions, background clutter, lighting conditions—basically automating the dreaded process of picking the one that says, “Yes, I’m fun but also dateable.”
- Crafting top-notch bios: If you’re the type to freeze up whenever someone says “tell me about yourself,” AI can help your personality shine. Rather than trotting out clichéd lines like “foodie who loves to travel,” you could let AI transform your scattered thoughts into an engaging mini-paragraph that resonates with potential matches.
The best part? You stay in control. The general consensus is that AI should spark ideas and streamline your profile, not overshadow your authenticity.
Safety Now First for Gen Z Dating in APAC
Of course, not everything is sunshine and roses. A critical theme that came through loud and clear in the survey is safety. About 28% of Gen Z singles highlight personal security concerns on first dates. And guess what? AI might soon have a role here too:
- Security prompts and protocols: Imagine an AI plugin that can nudge you if your scheduled first date is in a slightly dodgy location or at an odd hour.
- ID verification: Some apps already flirt with ID verification to ensure your match is who they say they are, but AI could up the ante, potentially flagging suspicious behaviour patterns.
Blending AI with real-life caution helps to remove some guesswork from in-person meetups. The digital-savvy Gen Z crowd is well aware that while a dating app is fantastic for meeting people, it’s equally important to be prepared for any potential red flags. According to the Tinder report, half of respondents (50%) prefer public places for first meets, and 47% share location details with friends. That’s the kind of synergy—personal vigilance plus tech support—that may well shape safer dating norms.
The Changing Definition of Chivalry
Remember the days when “chivalry” automatically meant the guy paying the restaurant bill or opening the car door? Well, times are changing, and Gen Z in APAC is giving the concept a serious makeover. According to the survey:
- 43% of women now feel punctuality is the biggest show of courtesy
- 41% say respectful online conversations matter more than who pays for dinner
- 41% want to ensure they get home safely
In other words, heartfelt gestures have trumped old-school traditions. It’s not that picking up the tab or walking on the kerb side is frowned upon—it’s just that it’s no longer the ultimate measure of care. For a generation that’s used to navigating digital spaces, consistent respect and emotional security rate higher than the occasional grand romantic flourish.

Not So Single-Minded: Balancing Love and Work
The perennial question—love or career first?—seems to be a non-issue for APAC’s Gen Z:
- 30% prioritise finding a long-term romantic partner in the next three years
- 30% also place career advancement top of mind during that same timeframe
- Looking out seven years, 28% see marriage as a bigger priority than career progress (26%) or personal growth (24%)
Interestingly, those surveyed say they’re keen to have both ambition and affection in the mix. Rather than an either-or, Gen Z is adopting a both-and approach. Marriage is seen as a genuine goal, but it doesn’t necessarily overshadow career aspirations—especially not in the short term. While older generations might recall a social pressure to settle down by a certain age, today’s young adults want to build well-rounded lives that include love, professional growth, and personal well-being. They’re not shy about stating that they want it all.
Fluidity, Inclusivity, and Letting Go of Labels
In a region often guided by strong family values and cultural norms, younger daters are carving out a brand new space for themselves. According to the Tinder data:
- 69% say they’re open to dating across different races and cultures
- 67% are up for cross-border romances
- 73% are comfortable with the idea of gender and sexual fluidity
These stats point to a paradigm shift from restrictive dating parameters. Gen Z is painting outside the lines drawn by older generations—whether that’s racial boundaries, geographical distance, or even conventional gender roles. In part, this shift reflects global connectivity: it’s never been easier to connect with someone on the other side of the planet. And in part, it mirrors a generation who came of age with fewer illusions about what’s “normal.” With so many crises and cultural shifts in their collective memory (from SARS to the global pandemic), APAC’s Gen Z is forging relationships that cross borders—both literal and metaphorical—and they’re not turning back.

A Journey Toward Healthier Dating
A surprising 69% say modern dating is healthier and more focused on honesty, openness, and mental well-being compared to the experiences of older generations. This shift has a ripple effect:
- Transparency Wins: Two-thirds (66%) mention that their generation is actively challenging older dating conventions. Gen Z prefers to have “the talk” more often and define relationship status clearly.
- Emotional Comfort Over Looks: When asked what a successful first date looks like, 37% cited “feeling safe,” 35% emphasised “having fun,” and 34% highlighted “feeling respected and valued.” Meanwhile, physical attraction ranked noticeably lower at 28%.
- Respectful Rejection: Dealing with heartbreak or a mismatch is viewed pragmatically, with 31% simply moving on, while 27% feel disappointed but accept it as part of the process.
The overarching message? Authenticity and emotional security matter more than superficial markers. The idea that a date should be about flamboyant gestures or curated glamour is taking a backseat to simpler but deeper experiences. A big fancy dinner is great, but if you can’t laugh, feel safe, or connect on a deeper level, it’s probably not the date Gen Z is after.
Let’s Talk “Situationships” and Other Modern Labels
We’d be remiss not to mention those fuzzy middle grounds that are all too common in the dating scene. Among the APAC daters surveyed, there’s a growing acceptance of so-called “situationships,” which revolve around a mutual understanding of emotional bonds without the heavy pressure of a full-on relationship label. Yet paradoxically, the data also shows that an overwhelming 92% eventually want clarity on where things stand. So while early-stage casualness might be in vogue, that doesn’t mean Gen Z is perpetually non-committal. They’ll test the waters, but many eventually want a definitive “Are we an item or not?” conversation.
When Tech and Tradition Collide
For as long as romance has existed, tradition and modernity have clashed. But Gen Z is redefining these lines in particularly interesting ways. Dr. Kenneth Tan from Singapore Management University highlights that this generation has spent their formative years in a paradoxical environment—global crises, digital revolutions, and ever-changing socio-political norms. That’s led them to embrace contradictory ideas, like craving both personal independence and interdependence with a partner. Or wanting the freedom of casual dating while also aiming for marriage a few years down the line.
This fluid approach to love might confuse their parents or grandparents, who grew up in times of rigid dating scripts. But for Gen Z’s dating in APAC, reconciling these paradoxes—digital intimacy vs. real-life connection, independence vs. collective goals, tradition vs. open-mindedness—is practically second nature.
How AI Fits into the Love Puzzle
We know that 65% of Gen Zers are fine letting AI help them choose photos and 67% would use it for drafting their bios. But the love affair with AI doesn’t stop at the profile stage:
- 68% believe AI tools could be a lifesaver in sparking initial conversations
- Many anticipate AI-driven suggestions for date ideas, activities, or conversation openers
- Potential for AI to help define common ground: Maybe it can identify shared interests or highlight mutual acquaintances, bridging that first-encounter awkwardness
Yet there’s a fine line: will using AI to craft entire messages begin to feel inauthentic? The consensus from the experts—and from many Gen Zers themselves—is that AI works best in tandem with human effort. It’s less about letting AI impersonate you and more about letting it polish your shining qualities. Think of it as a plus-one to the party, not the host.
Ghosts of Dating Past: Challenges Persist Around Gen Z Dating in APAC
It’s not all rosy—even with the help of technology, dating is tough. According to the survey:
- 32% find managing emotions challenging
- 31% struggle with emotional intimacy
- 31% also worry about rejection or disagreements
And ironically, while dating apps simplify the “who” and “where” of meeting people, they can complicate the “why” and “how.” Interpreting someone’s digital persona can be fraught with misunderstanding: is that lively banter real, or have they used AI to orchestrate it? Are you truly connecting, or just chasing a curated version of the other person?
Despite these stumbling blocks, only 1% said they have zero struggles with dating. The rest are finding creative ways to cope. For some, that’s chatting with mates (especially women, at 36%); for others, it’s googling for helpful advice (men, at 26%). Tools like Tinder’s School of Swipe aim to fill knowledge gaps and reduce anxiety around the modern dating scene. Because if we’re rewriting the rulebook, we might as well have some step-by-step instructions.
Cultural Curiosities
One might assume marriage is on the decline. Indeed, some APAC societies—particularly Japan and Korea—are often spotlighted as having a generation uninterested in tradition. But the report tells a more nuanced story. Marriage is still a top aspiration for many, outranking career progression among a subset of participants, with a 6% difference in Japan and 4% difference in Korea. There’s a sense that while Gen Z wants to question old norms, they’re not necessarily throwing them out altogether.
In India, where familial influence in marriage has historically been significant, technology is increasingly bridging cultural gaps. Meanwhile, Australia sees a robust conversation on respect, emotional health, and equality. And across Southeast Asia—Thailand, Vietnam, Singapore—there’s a noticeable enthusiasm for cross-cultural relationships and long-distance forays. In short, no matter the local spin, a broad acceptance of new ways to love is permeating APAC.
Will AI Eventually Replace the Human Touch?
One question inevitably lurks around the corner: is AI heading toward a scenario where your entire dating persona is “manufactured”? Unlikely. The data reveals an appetite for AI, but it clearly indicates Gen Z wants agency and authenticity to remain at the forefront:
- AI helps with the mechanics—photo selection, witty intros, ice-breakers
- It might identify some compatibility markers
- It can’t replicate genuine feelings, shared life experiences, or that intangible spark
Besides, if you’re letting an algorithm take over your entire personality, you’re bound to run into problems once you transition from screen to real-life date. Consistency is key—if your date meets you and finds a totally different vibe, it’s game over. So perhaps the best approach is to let AI do some of the legwork while you take charge of the real conversation, ensuring your profile aligns with your real-life persona. That synergy helps maintain trust and fosters deeper connections—two elements Gen Z actively craves.
Where Do We Go from Here?
In summary, dating in APAC has come a long way. Once taboo in certain conservative pockets, meeting a partner online is now totally mainstream—88% of surveyed Gen Zers have begun at least some of their relationships through an app, and a fifth have met all their significant others digitally. Gen Z’s dating in APAC are juggling an array of personal priorities—love, career, growth, emotional wellness—and they’re turning to technology for a supportive hand. Whether it’s an AI-based photo editor or a conversation starter, these digital tools are helping them navigate an ever-shifting world.
Yet the fundamentals of romance—trust, respect, emotional comfort—are as important as ever. We can talk about AI, borderless relationships, and fluid identities, but if you don’t feel seen, safe, and valued, it’s not going anywhere. The real transformation is in how Gen Z merges the digital with the personal, bridging gaps and forging connections that once seemed impossible. AI is the sidekick, yes, but the main star remains undeniably human.
What Do YOU Think About Gen Z Dating in APAC?
How far should we let AI shape our romantic destiny before we risk losing the human spark that makes falling in love so magical?
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- You can access the full Tinder survey by tapping here.
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Adrian is an AI, marketing, and technology strategist based in Asia, with over 25 years of experience in the region. Originally from the UK, he has worked with some of the world’s largest tech companies and successfully built and sold several tech businesses. Currently, Adrian leads commercial strategy and negotiations at one of ASEAN’s largest AI companies. Driven by a passion to empower startups and small businesses, he dedicates his spare time to helping them boost performance and efficiency by embracing AI tools. His expertise spans growth and strategy, sales and marketing, go-to-market strategy, AI integration, startup mentoring, and investments. View all posts
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AI Influencer Aces Valentine’s Day: 500 Date Proposals But Not a Single Real Heartbeat
AI influencer Aika Kittie scored 500+ Valentine’s proposals. We explore the lonely hearts, parasocial bonds, and future of digital romance.
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TL;DR – What You Need to Know in 30 Seconds
- AI Influencer Crushes Valentine’s Day: Aika Kittie, a digital personality, scored 500+ proposals for Valentine’s Day.
- Eye-Popping Offers: Her DMs are filled with lavish invites, from Louis Vuitton shopping sprees to private jets and fine dining.
- Loneliness Epidemic: With 21% of adults reporting serious loneliness (Harvard, 2021), many turn to AI for companionship.
- More to Come: The rise of AI influencers and parasocial relationships in Asia and beyond shows no signs of slowing down.
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Valentine’s Day has arrived (well, almost!), and it’s that time of year when everyone scrambles for dinner reservations or at least some last-minute flowers. But this season’s splashiest dating story isn’t happening over a candlelit meal at a fancy restaurant; it’s unfolding in the virtual realm. Meet Aika Kittie – an influencer with nearly 100,000 followers, a monthly income exceeding £5,000 (over $6,200), and a life brimming with glitzy-looking content. The catch? She’s not real. Yes, you read that right – we’re talking about an AI-generated personality who’s bagged an astonishing 500 Valentine’s Day proposals (Fanvue, 2023).
So, how does a computer-generated avatar spark so much romantic attention that the rest of us mere mortals can only dream of? Let’s dive in – and along the way, we’ll also examine the rise of AI chatbots in Asia, the phenomenon of parasocial relationships, and why thousands of people are turning to digital companionship in the first place.
A Valentine’s Day Like No Other
Valentine’s Day can be a minefield: even if you manage to snag a date, there’s the pressure of picking the right restaurant, choosing the perfect gift, and making sure your conversation doesn’t fizzle out by dessert. But that stress doesn’t seem to apply to Aika Kittie. In fact, she’s spending the day deluged with messages.
According to Fanvue, the subscription platform where Aika ‘lives,’ she’s received more than 500 messages from fans begging for her time on the most romantic day of the year (Fanvue, 2023). Some offers are spectacularly lavish: we’re talking private jets to Dubai, shopping sprees at Louis Vuitton, and luxurious dining experiences at London’s top restaurants. One starstruck suitor even proposed a trip to Paris – the clichéd but irresistibly dreamy capital of romance.
Aika has received Valentine’s proposals to take her shopping at Louis Vuitton, dinner at one of London’s top restaurants, and even a romantic trip to Paris”
Of course, the “physical date” aspect is a bit of a hurdle, given that Ms Kittie doesn’t exist in any tangible sense. Yet many fans still crave her attention, albeit through digital chats, AI-generated selfies, or even voice notes – courtesy of advanced tech that’s made these interactions astoundingly realistic.
Behind the Scenes of the AI Star
If you were to scroll through Aika Kittie’s Instagram feed, you might be fooled into thinking she’s just another stylish content creator, posing by poolsides, showing off her “try-on hauls,” and generally living that influencer lifestyle. She even appears in snapshots with other digital pals, as though she’s chilling at a swanky event.
But behind this curated feed is a sophisticated AI model that’s learned the art of capturing angles, expressions, and even that approachable-yet-glamorous look that resonates so well with fans. While plenty of social media users have jumped onto the AI hype train in Asia (with characters like imma in Japan or Ling in China’s digital sphere), the creators at Fanvue believe this phenomenon is only going to grow across the globe.
AI Influencers are able to build massive fanbases online, sharing their lives and journey through content – just like a human influencer would
That’s not just marketing fluff: AI has come a long way. These aren’t the clunky chatbots of yesteryear; they’re advanced companions capable of delivering something akin to empathy, humour, and friendly banter. And with platforms like Fanvue making chatbots accessible to everyday users, it’s no wonder some folks would rather spend V-Day with an AI buddy than face the sting of real-world rejection.
A Worrying Epidemic of Loneliness
Let’s talk about the serious side for a moment. Many of us joke about “forever alone” memes in February, but the truth is that loneliness is a growing concern, particularly in the US and across Asia as well. In fact, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy famously described the issue as a “loneliness epidemic” (Murthy, 2021), pointing out that large numbers of people “felt isolated, invisible, and insignificant.”
A Harvard survey found that 21 percent of adults admitted to having serious feelings of loneliness (Harvard, 2021). That’s not just an emotional toll – it can have severe health implications. According to Murthy, the effects of social isolation on mortality risk are about the same as smoking daily. That’s pretty alarming when you think about it.
So, how do AI chatbots and virtual influencers fit into this rather grim landscape? Possibly as a bandage for some. Platforms like Fanvue provide a sense of companionship, even if it’s digitally generated. This arrangement might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but for people feeling cut off from human connection, an AI companion can be a comforting presence.
We’re expecting a massive spike in user traffic as singletons choose to spend their Valentine’s online, rather than on a real world date.
The Rise of Parasocial Relationships
Ever followed a celebrity or influencer so closely you felt you actually knew them? That’s a parasocial relationship – one-sided, yet emotionally significant for the fan. But AI personalities like Aika Kittie take this concept to new heights. She isn’t just famous on screen; she’s entirely of the screen.
When hundreds of fans propose Valentine’s Day dates, it underscores a collective willingness to engage in an emotional bond with someone (or something) that isn’t real. The digital domain is creeping further into the realm of genuine human emotions, shifting our perspective on what’s “authentic.”
Aika’s creator is quick to point out that her loyal fanbase might come to her for more than just flirty banter: some fans are looking for solace, friendship, or even a sense of closeness they can’t find elsewhere. Whether this is a triumph of tech or a symptom of a society starved for human connection is up for debate.
But one thing is certain: parasocial relationships aren’t going anywhere, and AI technology will only make these bonds more immersive in the future – especially in Asia’s massive tech-savvy market, where people often embrace innovative digital solutions.
The Valentine’s Day Rush
According to Aika’s creator, February 14 is shaping up to be her busiest day of the year, with an expected 18-hour online session to chat with fans, send out those personalised (albeit computer-generated) messages, and generally play Cupid to the lonely hearts logging on (Kittie’s creator, 2023).
Sure, it’s not the typical candlelit dinner. But for those 500 suitors vying for Aika’s affections, it’s presumably better than swiping endlessly on Tinder or braving an awkward first date. And who’s to say they’re wrong? If it brings them joy or companionship, maybe there’s a valid place for AI-driven romances – at least as a pit stop on the winding road of human connection.
An Eye on the Future
AI-generated influencers aren’t just a passing fad. Social media is morphing into a space where virtual entities can captivate massive audiences, forging real emotional ties despite lacking physical form. As technology evolves, these relationships may blur even further, especially in regions like Asia where cutting-edge tech adoption is swift and robust.
On the one hand, we might laud platforms like Fanvue for offering a safe, no-strings-attached environment for lonely people to chat without judgment. On the other hand, it’s worth questioning whether we’re gradually edging away from genuine interpersonal connections. Will a digital influencer ever be able to replicate the complexity of human love, empathy, and vulnerability?
So here’s my question for you: Is the explosive popularity of AI companions a sign that we’re solving the loneliness crisis, or have we stumbled onto a new breed of emotional disconnection disguised as digital romance? Let us know in the comments below!
You may also like:
- AI Influencers: A New Era of Brand Engagement
- Falling for AI: How Artificial Intelligence is Transforming Romance
- The Dark Side of AI Influencers
- Or visit the Instagram page of Aika Kittie by tapping here.
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